Muhammad (saw): 11 Leadership Qualities that Changed the World

Check out the first in our Sisters’ Bookclub podcast series! Here we read and talked about Muhammad (saw): 11 Leadership Qualities that Changed the World reviewing two chapters at a time.

The recordings are raw and conversational in style so please excuse the stuttering and the rawness! You’ll notice the improvement of sound quality as the podcasts progress, Alhumdulillah.

Chapter 1 Integrity & Chapter 2 Competence

Chapter 3 Vision & 4 Courage

Chapters 5 Holistic Justice & 6 Pragmatic Decisiveness

Mindfulness through Journaling

Life has become fast and busy. With information being accessible at our fingertips 24/7 within minutes or even seconds. This means we have multiple thoughts and ideas criss-crossing through our heads simultaneously.

Add to the formula the unique position of professional Muslim women. We are juggling various aspects of life across issues of gender, race, culture, faith and profession. For many of us it can be overwhelming.

PtMSis Mindfulness through Journaling March 2020 Invitation

Date: Saturday 28th March 2020

Time: 14:00 – 15:30 (GMT)

Location: Online via Webex

Life has become fast and busy. With information being accessible at our fingertips 24/7 within minutes or even seconds. This means we have multiple thoughts and ideas criss-crossing through our heads simultaneously.

Add to the formula the unique position of professional Muslim women. We are juggling various aspects of life across issues of gender, race, culture, faith and profession. For many of us it can be overwhelming.

In this session we will explore how journaling can be a useful tool to effectively ‘brain dump’, organise, and then prioritise these thoughts for implementation. The key being actioning ideas and plans that may otherwise remain fruitless.

The aim is to take the overwhelming mountain of ideas, break them down into manageable chunks and organise them in a manner that aids life management. Journalising is one of many methods that can be used to enable us to balance our professional, personal and spiritual lives. Whilst being mindful of our mental and physical health.

This month we are honoured to have Jia Jamali as our guest speaker connecting with us from across the Atlantic in Canada. As her bio below conveys, Jia is another example of a multi-faceted professional Muslim woman who balances being a wife, daughter and mother with being a teacher, personal trainer, fitness instructor and influencer.

Jia will showcase how journaling has helped her become more reflective and organise how she spends her time between ventures. She will focus on the importance of Mindfulness through Journaling and how it can positively impact the various aspects of life we all try to juggle and balance.

Does this sound like something you’d be interested in? Please register your interest by booking your ticket below.

This is a sisters’ only online event.

Log-in details will be provided to those sisters who register and provide an email address for contacting.

Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Speaker Bio:

Jia Jamali

Jia Jamali is a mother of two, a full time elementary school teacher, a fitness and wellness influencer, a certified personal trainer, and a group fitness instructor.

Jia teaches Grade 6 Language and Health & Physical Education to Grades 1 to 8. She currently facilitates 6 group classes per week for the Muslim women in our communities, including yoga, bootcamp and dance fitness across the GTA.

Apart from this, she is also pursuing a masters degree in counselling psychology and aims to specialize in marriage counselling and helping youth with drug, alcohol and addiction related issues.

Jia is passionate about health and wellness and has a desire to help women and children become the best versions of themselves in all aspects: mentally, physically & spiritually.

http://www.jiajamfit.com | Insta: @jia.fitness | jia.fitnesspt@gmail.com

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This was a historic moment for all at Pass the Mic Sis as it was our first ever online event and that too with an international guest speaker! Huge thanks to #JiaJamali for providing such a wonderful presentation full of useful information, advice and tips for being more mindful in all we do in life.

Thank you to the sisters who attended and took part in an interactive session whereby each of you were able to make a contribution and engage in the Q&A segment.

The session had a great balance of contribution to deen and dunya. Everything we do in this world will affect how we a judged in the hereafter, therefore we need to be mindful about everything we do. What is the purpose? How will it benefit us spiritually?

Below is a video of the recorded session, hope you find it as useful as the rest of us attendees did.

Setting up Your Own Business

Ever thought of starting up on your own? Do you have a fabulous idea but don’t know where to start, and how? This is a thought that runs through many of our minds at one point in time. Very few of us take the bold step and risk it all for something we feel passionately about.

PtMSis Setting up Your Own Business February 2020 Invitation

Date: Saturday 29th February 2020

Time: 14:00 – 17:00

Location: Triton Cafe

Ever thought of starting up on your own? Do you have a fabulous idea but don’t know where to start, and how? This is a thought that runs through many of our minds at one point in time. Very few of us take the bold step and risk it all for something we feel passionately about.

Starting up your own business is a huge and serious undertaking, not one for the light-hearted. It requires a great deal of hard work, passion, drive and one must be visionary.

On Saturday 29th February a panel of sisters will share their experiences of setting up their own companies. What worked? What could have been done better? What challenges and opportunities were out there? What are the benefits?

Mehak, Jennifer and Faizā took the bold step to start their own businesses. They will each share their experiences and discuss the common lessons learnt as a panel before opening out to the audience.

Does this sound like something you’d be interested in? Please register your interest by booking your ticket below and paying a refundable £5 deposit via our paypal link: https://paypal.me/sadiqajabbar?locale.x=en_GB

This is a sisters only event.

Speaker bios:

Mehak is Founder of Mendhi by Mehak.

@mendhibymehak

Jennifer Ogunyemi is the founder of Sisters In Business, a networking, membership and business advisory platform that Muslim women. She is the author of Healthy Hijab Hair, a mother of 4 a wife & a multi faceted woman who empowers women to be the best they can be.

http://www.sistersinbusiness.co.uk @sisters.in.business @healthyhijabhair

Faizā is a the owner of The Skin Shrink, a Consulting and Copy Content Agency for brands in the Cosmetic, Pharmaceutical and Beauty industry. She provides formulation services, stability reports, articles, ghostwriting for magazines and corporate seminars. Faizā provides companies with training on implementing and incorporating professional scientific content.

http://www.theskinshrink.com

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Our largest event to date, this afternoon session inspirational on multiple levels. Our special guest panel, @mendhibymehak, @sisters.in.business and #Faizā, shared a range of  experiences of setting their own businesses. Thank you sisters for all your words of wisdom and providing an insight to each of your unique journeys.

Thank you to all the sisters who attended to make this such an amazing experience. It was lovely to see sisters, from our loyal ‘veteran’ attendees to many newbies. We welcome you all with warm open arms.

Thank you to @regentsplace and @tritoncafe_nw1 for providing us with such an amazing venue!

Photos: #FarhanaJuhera

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Design the Job You Love

The New Year brings fresh set of hopes, challenges and opportunities. With a renewed positive mindset and different perspective, what previously may have been seen as obstacles and minefields can be seen as opportunities for personal and professional development.

PtMSis Design the Job You Love January 2020 Invitation

Date: Saturday 18th January 2020

Time: 14:00 – 16:45

Location: Euston Road

Sometimes it is difficult to see the blessings in our lives as we struggle to fight our inner demons and fatigue from the year gone by.

However with the New Year brings fresh set of hopes, challenges and opportunities. With a renewed positive mindset and different perspective, what previously may have been seen as obstacles and minefields can be seen as opportunities for personal and professional development.

Join us for an interactive session where we will explore the fundamentals of what fulfilling work is and how you can design a work-life that works for you.

We will explore the main ingredients of a fulfilling career and you will get to design what a fulfilling career looks to you.

Our guest specialist, Lola Yunus says:

“I love helping professionals design the work they love without sacrificing their financial security.

It is said that an average person will spend 1/3 of their lives working – [therefore] it is important we do work we enjoy.”

Speaker bio:
Lola Yunus is the Founder of Impact Street, a training and development company.

Lola is a Career and Business Mentor, a Trainer and Facilitator at Impact Street. Lola is also a Writer and writes at www.lolayunus.com.

Lola is currently undergoing her certified Professional Life Coach training by Transformation Academy and a Business Coaching programme by Ruth Kudzi Coaching Ltd.

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Thanks to @regentsplace once again for enabling us to use their venue for our event ‘Design the Job You Love’ on Saturday, which had a great turnout alhumdulillah. Thank you to @lola.yunus for planning the great workshop and to all the sisters who attended.

It was an invaluable session whereby #LolaYunus of @impact.street provided the sisters with great tips and insights into how we can shift our mindsets to overcome the common blockers to progression at work and life.

In shaa Allah we welcome you to attend our next event on Saturday 29th February, ‘Setting up your own business’. Keep your eyes peeled for more details!

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End of Year Motivation Boost & Reflections

Do you feel run down? Deflated? As though you haven’t achieved anything over the past year? Then this session may be just what you’re looking for. Farah Dualeh will help rejuvenate our inner spirit, going into the holiday break with a more positive mindset.

PtMSis Motivation Boost and End of Year Reflections December 2019 Invitation

Date: Saturday 14th December 2019

Time: 13:30-16:00

Location: Euston Road

Do you feel run down? Deflated? As though you haven’t achieved anything over the past year? Then this session may be just what you’re looking for. Farah Dualeh will help rejuvenate our inner spirit, going into the holiday break with a more positive mindset.

The aims of the workshop are to:
1) Reflect on 2019 – what went well and what could be improved
2) Discover the key ingredients required to get things done and stay disciplined
3) Partake in group coaching to set and plan achieving your most urgent goals

Reflecting on our achievements, challenges and opportunities experienced during 2019 is a good way for us to look forward to a more prosperous and productive 2020.

Speaker bio:
Farah Dualeh has worked in the charity sector for over 10 years and has a BA in Social Science and a postgraduate qualification in Community Leadership and Law. Farah is the founder of Inspire Her LTD, a life and Infertility coaching service for women.

Farah has gone to run her business full time and is loving it. She says “I help women to beat procrastination and take action on both short and long-term goals, so they feel in control and on top of it. I also help women cope with fertility issues by coaching them through options, treatments, and mindset so they feel more in control and hopeful through and beyond the journey of trying to conceive.”

Start taking action today on your goals with Farah. Get started by booking your FREE 90-minute coaching session with her.

Contact Farah:
www.inspirehercoaching.com
+447947524894 | Insta: @inspirehercoaching

This is a sisters’ only event.

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Thank you to all who attended the session on Saturday. It was a great opportunity to reflect on what each of us have achieved individually as well as #PasstheMicSis collective during 2019.

Thank you to #FarahDualeh who led a good productive session on believing in ourselves and setting goals for 2020. We all left motivated with an action plan to begin working towards achieving that one goal.

Farah provided some really useful tips to keep motivated and find positive ways keep our energy boosted. She guided us through a series of activities to help us hone in on a goal we’d like to achieve in 2020 and plan how to obtain it.

At Pass the Mic Sis it was a good opportunity to reflect on what we have achieved during the course of 2019 and plan ahead for our targets for 2020. Keep your eyes peeled for more friends!

Thank you to #RegentsPlace for once again providing us with a fabulous professional setting for our events and the entire #PtMSis team for making it happen, in shaa Allah see you all at the next one!

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How It All Began

The concept behind the creation of the networking group was to provide an inclusive free to access platform for professional Muslim women to support, learn, and develop within a network of other like-minded Muslim women from diverse industries.

Pass the Mic Sis was established in May 2017 in response to the need for a Professional Muslim women’s networking event series, that was inclusive and accessible for all, without cost of memberships and commitment to attend every session (although it’s lovely to see sisters attend regularly!). Here is Founder, Sadiqa Jabbar’s reflection on how we were formed.

The seeds of the Pass the Mic Sis roots were planted at the end of 2016 during a company Business Development CPD day. During the session there was a call to action for fee earning staff to step up their game to assist with bringing in business leads. I don’t belong to a network of people who would necessarily provide the type of work the company undertakes, so the thought was ‘how on earth would I be able to bring business leads?’ To add to this I had recently taken my final qualification exam a few days earlier, so there was no gently easing into the role of an architect from an assistant. Talk about a ‘rabbit caught in headlights’ moment!

With this in mind the concept of networking to expand my contacts came to fruit. To contextualise this, I am a genuine network-phobe especially within the industry. When attending lectures talks and exhibitions, once the main event is over, I will literally run out as soon as the networking ‘drinks’ portion of the evening begins.

The problem here was two-fold. Firstly the networking anxiety heralds from deep-rooted issues of identity, being a relatively short, ethnic minority woman, who is visibly Muslim. Considering the current social-political environment, being genuinely accepted and valued by industry peers is highly important to me. We can no longer avoid the issue by brushing it aside in guise of being politically correct or declaring we live in times of secular equality, which immediately indirectly erases one’s right to belong to multiple forms of community groups. Highly debatable, although frankly mates, it’s the reality.

Secondly, this outward dilemma of perceptions, acceptance and inclusion at industry events, doesn’t mix so well with the internal anxiety of not being a natural small-talk generator amongst a room full of strangers. Coming from a straight talker, small talk gets a bit monotonous and boring, imagine saying the same thing over and over again. I am more for a single meaningful conversation than many small-talk chats. The question is how does one make it fun and meaningful at the same time?

With all these issues running through my head, I unintentionally pressured myself into thinking that I had to fit in with the industry norm of how and when one should network and for what purpose. Over the coming months I considered my options and realised that instead of trying to become something or someone I am not, I should identify with who I am and use networking as a tool that works for me, not the other way round. I had to think outside the box and be more creative in my approach.

So with these new energised self-motivating thoughts, I began with my comfort zone, women, and more so Muslim women. I looked online for networking groups for Muslim women. Through the search I found the SMART Women group on the social site Meetup, which catered to working Muslim women. Through social activities, I began for the first time in a long time, if not ever, meeting other Muslim women from a diverse range of professional sectors. Wow, I thought.

It was great to begin with as I was networking in a social capacity and as most can testify, potential clients can be found in the must unpredictable situations. It was an eye-opener, as I have never really worked with other Muslims let alone Muslim women during my architectural career to date. It felt good to meet like-minded Muslimahs with some shared experiences. However with the company’s call to action still in the back of my head, I felt that needed to take this a step further.

So I posed a question to the ladies within the WhatsApp group if anyone would be up for business-oriented meets to talk through work and career related issues within a professional setting rather than coffee shops (where it was difficult to conduct a conversation). With quite a few sisters interested a group was formed, a venue generously offered, and date arranged for our first networking event on Bank Holiday Monday 1st May 2017. Alhumdulillah.

The concept behind the creation of the networking group was to provide an inclusive free to access platform for professional Muslim women to support, learn, and develop within a network of other like-minded Muslim women from diverse industries. Many of us don’t work with other Muslims let alone Muslim women so having this support network has proven to be a breath of fresh air for many of us, Alhumdulillah. We hope that sisters will find the network to collaborate and generate opportunities or redirect to specialist support if and when required, in shaa Allah.

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During the course of our first year we were able to reach sisters from a wide range of professional fields; doctors, psychologists, solicitors, architects, IT professionals, charity workers, teachers to scientists to name a few. Some sisters are single and either living with family or have moved to London for work/studies, while others are married with and without children. We feel we have a good mix of cultural backgrounds to create a richer more holistic fusion of perspectives during our discussion segments. Naturally newfound friendships were formed and a sense of a familial community created.

Interests vary and over time we had some sisters become regular attendees, some topics tended to be more naturally popular while others became intimate focus groups with more in depth conversations had. The choices of topics were based initially on the Founder’s interests, although we adapted and provided sessions over time requested by sisters through feedback received.

On our first birthday, we launched our online presence with digital branding created by #Cre8tivePixels. This has enabled us to reach a wider audience and establish ourselves within the Professional Muslim Women community.

Our most popular sessions tended to be those where sisters were able to learn about a new topic and engage in conversation-style discussion segments. We realised that these sessions were important platforms for Muslims sisters to gather and talk. It is important to provide platforms and facilitate, Muslim women to talk freely within a network of sisters who understand the sensibilities of being a female Muslim. It is just as important to be able to do so in a safe, empowering and uplifting environment that will not compromise our Islamic principles.

During our second year thanks to the brilliant networking by our Events & Membership Manager Attia Ali, we were able to obtain a venue to host all our events. We are humbly thankful to #RegentsPlace for enabling this to happen. As any event planner may concur, the venue is one of the most critical elements to nail! Alhumdulillah.

Approaching our third year, we recently launched our fortnightly book club beginning with Muhammad (saw): 11 Leadership Qualities that Changed the World by late brother #NabeelAlAzami (may Allah grant him a place in Jannat-ul-Firdous. Ameen). It is a fantastic book and quite apt for the period in which we began reading this. We begin 2020 with #YasminMojahed’s inspirational Reclaim Your Heart.

Our aim for the coming years is to reach a wider range of Professional Muslim Women at various levels of experience across all sectors by using social media to publicise future events. We are hoping to attract more guest speakers to add value to the events and topics we organise with follow up sessions from the previous year. In shaa Allah!

Attia Ali – Events & Membership Manager

Attia Ali is an IRSE Licensed SSR Hardware Signalling Design Engineer working with Thales. She has over a decade of experience in working as a Design Engineer on various Ground Transportation – Sub Surface Railway Signalling Systems projects. She has earned a BEng in Electrical and Electronic Engineering and is working towards being a Chartered Engineer. Attia also holds a BA in Literature and Law and worked in the journalism industry prior to becoming an Engineer. Attia is the co founder of the Women in Thales network and organises many events within the workplace. She is also a STEM Ambassador and regularly participates in STEM events all over the UK.

Outside of work she volunteers for a local refugee charity and is the Events and Membership Manager for Pass the Mic Sis. She has helped organise venue space, events, speakers and Eid parties for the network from the very early days.

“For me PtMSis a platform where I get to meet new and existing members who are all of different ages and ethnicities. We all get to share our opinions and experiences with 1 common thread, Islam! Each month we speak about different topics which are relevant and current to us professional Muslim women.

It feels very rewarding to see positive changes in so many sisters and to know that I am a part of this great team who has made this change happen. I have also made lifelong friends which would not have been possible without PtMSis.”

Sadiqa Jabbar – Founder

As a professional Muslim woman, Sadiqa feels the need to represent her voice through becoming a positive role model for the future generation of Muslim and non-Muslim girls and young women. What is the legacy we want to leave behind?

Associate Architect and Urban Designer working at MEB Design Ltd on a range of community schemes. Sadiqa believes in ensuring each project brings value to those who experience the buildings, spaces and places we design.

Sadiqa is a Mentor and School Speaker for Muslim Women Connect‘s School Speaker and Mentor programmes, RIBA Student Mentor and Mosaic Secondary School Mentor for The Prince’s Trust. Recently she has become an Associate Lecturer at Oxford Brookes on their Management Practice and Law module in the Architecture Department.

In 2017 She founded and organised a series of events for professional Muslim women under the tag, Pass the Mic Sis. The online presence was established in May 2018.

“As professional Muslim women, I feel we need to represent our voices through becoming positive visible role models for the future generation of Muslim and non-Muslim girls and young women. We are taking part in a variety of different fields and aspects of community life on a daily basis and don’t get this type of exposure. PtMSis facilitates for a platform to share the accomplishments of Muslim women (both historic and contemporary) to provide the inspiration for others.

At the same time, it is also imperative for Muslim and non-Muslim boys and young men to see the contributions of Muslim women in society for a more holistic positive mindset change in our communities worldwide. This will garner more trust and respect for one another.

What is the legacy we want to leave behind?”

Love Yourself First

Feeling confident is important in order to flourish in all areas of your life, especially when it comes to relationships with others. Whether you are already in a relationship or single and looking to meet one, working on yourself should remain a priority, as a lack of self-awareness and self-love is likely to leave you feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled.

There are many factors that lead to low self-esteem. If not addressed it can impact our daily lives and seep into our productivity and interactions at work. Aliya Rajah, Life Coach and NLP Practitioner gives her advice on Love Yourself First.

[Originally posted on January 8th 2019: ‘Love Yourself First’, on Aliya’s website. Reposted with permission.]

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You may have heard the phrase ‘love yourself before you love another,’ but what does this actually mean?

In order to love yourself, you need to start by knowing who you are. How can you love what you do not know? Once you start to know who you are, it makes it a lot easier to know what you want from another.

Feeling confident is important in order to flourish in all areas of your life, especially when it comes to relationships with others. Whether you are already in a relationship or single and looking to meet one, working on yourself should remain a priority, as a lack of self-awareness and self-love is likely to leave you feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled. I’m going to share with you a few reasons why.

  1. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll be more likely to avoid spending time on your own, and so constantly seek out to be in the company of others. Apply this to dating, and you’ll find yourself needing to be with someone as opposed to wanting to be with them, and relying on your new partner to be the source of your happiness. When you’re confident in yourself, you are more likely to be with someone because you’ve chosen to be with them. You come from a place of “my life is pretty good, but being with this person will make it even better.”
  2. If you don’t value yourself, you will end up putting the other person on a pedestal and feel the urge to do anything to impress them. Have you ever been on a date and felt the need to ‘sell’ yourself to that person and convince them as to why you’re so great? Or maybe it’s happened to you, and you’ve experienced the person you’re on a date with eagerly trying to win over your approval? When you feel a great sense of self-confidence; you know who you are and what you want, you can sit there and think “do I want to spend my time with you? How do I feel about this person?”
  3. When you know and value yourself, you’ll know what you want and expect, which means you can set boundaries. An increased sense of confidence enables you to communicate when you’re not happy about something in the relationship. The unfortunate reality is if you don’t set boundaries when it comes to how others treat you, other people will set those boundaries for you. When you don’t value yourself, you’ll fear that the other person will leave you, and instead of valuing yourself to know that you will be okay by yourself, you’ll convince yourself that you need them and continue to tolerate their behaviour.
  4. If you don’t love yourself, you will end up attracting people who validate how you feel about yourself. Disrespect and name calling will be acceptable because it’s what you’re comfortable with. Start being kinder to yourself and talk to yourself like you would someone you love. As your confidence increases, you will naturally begin to attract those who are similar to you, and you create healthier relationships.

 

How can you start to love yourself more in order to have flourishing relationships?

  1. Know your values. What is important to you and what are your reasons for wanting to be in a relationship? What are your non-negotiables?
  2. Learn to enjoy your own company. Go for a walk, pamper yourself, read a book, anything that makes you feel good.
  3. Understand that saying no doesn’t make you a bad person. You can still be a kind person but have your boundaries.
  4. Forgive yourself. Remind yourself that you are human, it’s okay to make mistakes, and that there are lessons to be learnt from every experience.

https://aliyarajah.com/ | Instagram: @coach_aliya | Facebook: @AliyaRajahCC | YouTube: Aliya Rajah

How to Boost Your Confidence Before a Stressful Event

If you’re someone who freaks out at the thought of any of the above events, or if you regularly imagine everything going wrong, I’d recommend creating a routine for yourself to prepare yourself for what you need to do.

Many of us feel anxious before speaking at events. The biggest villain in the piece being the over-thinking leading to self-doubt. Aliya Rajah, Life Coach and NLP Practitioner gives her advice on How to Boost Your Confidence Before a Stressful Event.

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During a recent coaching session with one of my clients, we were developing a strategy to help her feel more confident before delivering presentations at short notice.

She asked me “Aliya, what would you do if someone gave you 5 minutes to prepare an important speech?” (By the way this question was hypothetical, her colleagues give her more a lot more than 5 minutes to prepare for a presentation!)

I said “I would most likely prepare the speech for 4 minutes, and then take 1 minute out for myself to feel calm and get in the zone.”

‘Really? Even with only 5 minutes to prepare?”

“Definitely, it’s so important for me to approach challenging situations in a calm and relaxed way.”

Let’s say you have a job interview coming up, or you need to give a presentation at work. We often focus fully on preparing the content for what we need to deliver, and place less emphasis on how we need to feel in order to deliver at a higher standard.

If you’re someone who freaks out at the thought of any of the above events, or if you regularly imagine everything going wrong, I’d recommend creating a routine for yourself to prepare yourself for what you need to do. I am a huge believer of not just ‘rocking up’ to an event. Spending as little as 10 minutes doing this beforehand can make all the difference to your performance.

In this blog post, I’d like to share with you a few things I do to mentally prepare me for challenging events, in hope that they will inspire you to create a motivating routine that works for you.

  1. Start the day off well: Firstly, how you start your day will impact how the rest of the day goes. I always like to ensure that I wake up early enough to start the day off in a relaxed and calm way.
  2. Visualise: Before you leave the house in the morning, close your eyes and picture the event going really well with ideal outcomes. If you only imagine the worst case scenario, chances are you’ll feel a lot more nervous and your performance will be affected. Allow yourself to dream big and picture the event going really well!
  3. Have some empowering ‘me time.’ Before the big event, take some time out and go to a quiet space (either a meeting room or even in the bathroom). Spending a few minutes here beforehand can make all the difference to your performance. There are 3 things I love to do during this time, as they massively boost my confidence.
    • Firstly, I love to power pose. For me, this is putting my hands on my hips and standing with my legs shoulder width apart. Studies have shown that power posing increases testosterone, causing you to feel more confident, and reduces cortisol levels, therefore reducing stress.
    • Secondly, take some time to breathe. Numerous studies show that doing some deep breathing can greatly reduce anxiety and stress.
    • Thirdly, give yourself a powerful pep talk. This one might sound a bit crazy, but it 100% works. Tell yourself everything you need to hear to get you into a positive state for the event. Statements I often use are “You’ve got this, you’re going to be great!” “You are so confident!” Say it like you mean it and give yourself a big smile, whilst you walk out the door on your way to impress.

Now the outcome of the interview/meeting will depend on a number of factors, but by having a routine in place beforehand, you’ll feel a lot calmer and more prepared for the event itself. And by feeling more relaxed, it’s likely that you’ll perform much better under pressure.

I’d love to know how you get on. Feel free to drop me an email on aliya.rajah@gmail.com

Good luck!

https://aliyarajah.com/ | Instagram: @coach_aliya | Facebook: @AliyaRajahCC | YouTube: Aliya Rajah

Influential Muslim Women: Historic & Contemporary 3

Throughout Muslim history women have been in the forefront of society, taking active part in communal life in a variety of different roles, not only as mothers, daughters, sisters and wives. Not only were these women active community members and philanthropists, they were encouraged and well respected within Muslim societies.

PtMSis Influential Muslim Women Historic & Contemporary April 2019 Invitation

Date: Saturday 27th April 2019

Time: 2.30-5.15pm

Location: Euston Road

As Muslim women it is important that we have relevant and relatable role models from whom to draw inspiration, those who reflect the values of both deen and dunya. Fortunately, we do not necessarily have to look beyond our communities for such inspiration.

Throughout Muslim history women have been in the forefront of society, taking active part in communal life in a variety of different roles, not only as mothers, daughters, sisters and wives. Not only were these women active community members and philanthropists, they were encouraged and well respected within Muslim societies.

Join us to explore the contributions made by Muslim women across historic and contemporary life. In the third of our Influential Muslim Women series, we will explore the invaluable contributions made by Naseebah bint Ka’ab and Dr Hawa Abdi.

Who is your role model? Come join us to discuss further.

This is a sisters’ only event.

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Thanks to all who attended our #InfluentialMuslimWomen series event looking at inspirational historic (#NaseebahbintKaab) and contemporary (#DrHawaAbdi) role models. It is amazing to have such exemplar and relatable personae who convey the power and influence women have had in the past and continue today in Muslim societies.

The sheer strength of character, confidence, assertiveness, faith in God and their roles in the forefront of society by both women discussed inspired us all.

We had an in-depth discussion about the challenges and opportunities we face as Muslim women. At Pass the Mic Sis we aim to empower and provide a supportive space where we can express challenges faced with the mindset of looking for avenues to move forward with a positive mental attitude.

It was great to continue discussions and networking over dinner!

Special shout-out to our host #RegentsPlace!

Mental Health & Well Being: Stress at Work

Research shows that Muslim women are unique in the sense that they face triple penalty discrimination – being women, being ethnic minorities, and Muslim. The stress that comes with having to deal with these pressures can impact one’s mental health, and left unchecked can lead to serious health problems.

PtMSis Mental Health and Well Being March 2019 Invitation

Date: Saturday 16th March 2019

Time: 2.45-5.15pm

Location: Edgware Road (venue details disclosed to sisters who confirm attendance).

Research shows that Muslim women are unique in the sense that they face triple penalty discrimination – being women, being ethnic minorities, and Muslim. The stress that comes with having to deal with these pressures can impact one’s mental health, and left unchecked can lead to serious health problems.

Within the Muslim community mental health and well being is still quite the taboo issue. The stigma that comes with mental health is so strong that many will go untreated or counselled, and will suffer alone. The perception of what it means to be a sufferer of depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues stops people from disclosing their problems. This is also an issue when approaching current and potential employers at the risk of being overlooked for jobs, promotions, or stimulating workloads.

However ground has been broken in mental health awareness across all sectors. Faith leaders and employers are being provided guidelines and training support to deal with members of the community and staff respectively that show concerns for their mental health and well being. From the design of work environments to support for coaching, training, and counselling, employers are being made responsible for their workforce. A healthy happy workforce is more likely to boost productivity, reduce the amount of annual sick leave and loss of work hours, and increase profits.

The aim of this workshop is to explore the various aspects of work life that can impact a Muslim woman’s ability to handle the various pressures that come with it. From level of responsibilities, workloads, working relations with bosses, colleagues, clients, and various consultants, to the specifics of hours, commute, expectations, and opportunities for training and promotions. What about our work and faith identities are they the one and the same or do we feel caught between the two? Is this an internal or external manifestation? Does potential discrimination faced at work contribute to this? How do Muslim women deal with this on top of their personal pressures?

This will be delivered through our specialists in the field talking about the different issues, support, and treatment available. Interactive activities will showcase the important cognitive behavioural therapy techniques that can help alleviate and address stress and anxiety. This will highlight the importance of mindfulness and compassion towards others as well as to oneself in not only coming to terms with mental health issues, but as a stress management tool.

The aim for the session is to enable sisters to:

  1. learn ways to deal with work related stress or spot others in need of help
  2. how to reconfigure one’s mindset to be more effective in dealing with it
  3. different avenues and methods of treatment/counselling and support groups available i.e. where and who to ask for help

Our focus is exploring what works, what could be done better, and what can one do to begin making a positive and productive step forward.

Please note that this is a sisters’ only event and for security purposes venue details will only be disclosed to sisters who confirm their place.

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Light refreshments are available and any sisters interested can join us for dinner to continue discussions at a local restaurant after.

The nearest station is Colindale Tube Station. Bus stops for routes 32, 142 and N16 outside the building. Bus stops for either 292 or 303 bus routes a short walk away.

Thanks to all who attended today’s sessions. Our specialists #DrIramSattar and #DrSophiaMohyuddin provided some very useful information, tips, resources and background to the topic with a good balance of Islamic perspective.

Shout out to our venue coordinator #AttiaAli who organised today’s venue! Jzk sis!

Keep your eyes peeled for the next event sisters!